I’m forever collecting images and making plans for every corner of our home, quite often I will wake up with an idea and want to get going that very day. I usually try to run my ideas past my husband (it is OUR house after all), but I have been known to get painting when he’s gone out for the day! Sorry hubs!
I’m lucky that most of the time he likes what I suggest/do (phew!) but every now and then, he’ll turn his nose up…Most of the time he can be persuaded, but occasionally he has been known to get his way and I have had to learn the art of compromise. There was the sanded wood floor vs carpet debate for our living room. And then the Smeg versus the much more reasonable but far more boring (in my opinion) built in fridge. Try as I might, I couldn’t persuade him on either of those, but two loses in a house full of wins isn’t too bad I guess.
But what do you do if your styles differ so much that these kind of disagreements are a regular occurrence? One of my lovely readers has found herself in this situation and has asked for my help. So I have been racking my brain to come up with a few tips to help her and anyone else that can relate!
1. Try to find a common ground between your styles. If he loves the coastal look and you want Parisian chic – then focus on what they have in common – the colour palette. Add subtle hints of both, but don’t go too overboard one way or the other.
2. The colour debate – one of you loves bright, bold colours, the other wants neutral muted tones. I think in this instance it’s best to work with a neutral base and add pops of bold colour through accessories. You can always add to it over time in the hope that your partner doesn’t notice :)
3. Something that can be quite common is when one of you prefers functionality or comfort over aesthetics. Yes you absolutely should be buying a comfy sofa, but that doesn’t mean you can’t keep searching for one that is both comfy and attractive.
4. Clutter versus clean. If one of you loves clean lines and sleek surfaces, and the other wants knick-knacks galore it can be tricky to find a balance. If you find this is the case in your house then I recommend keeping the overall look clean with simple furniture and white walls but add shelving solutions to display ornaments – and display them in a neat, coherent way.
5. One time I think you have to give in is when it comes to your partner wanting to display personal and meaningful objects – even if you feel that they don’t go with your scheme. Find out why it is so important to them and try to focus on that, rather than the fact you have an ornament of a cast iron dog in your living room! (My husband has had it since he was 5 – it reminds him of the dog he had as a child so who am I to say that it doesn’t go!)
If none of these tips are working for you, I have one last suggestion, which is actually my secret to getting my way 99% of the time…!
Give your partner the spare room and let them go wild! HA! I have a full on man cave in my house – complete with pool table, dart board and football memorabilia galore!! It’s certainly not what I’d do with the room – the edwardian fireplace does look a little out of place – but it’s a good compromise for us. Chris gets to do whatever he wants with that room, while I have the rest of the house :) And I have to admit, it is kinda fun having a pool table!
Have any of you experienced this, how have you worked around it? Which of you usually wins the house battles?